What is essential to share regarding your completion of the "Perfect Mate" handout? How does your experience relate to what you know about Romeo and Juliet's situation? What does this make you think? Don't forget to include references to our class discussion.
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i learned that what your parents think should be a good mate for you you also agree because they rased you and you learned from them and they helped develope your values. such as how in romeo and julliet they are suposed to hate eachother but they love eachother because they were rased primarily by others not their parents (julliet by the nurse)
What I learned from the perfect mate handout was that you and your parents might not want the same qualities in your "perfect mate", but like in Romeo and Juliet their parents did not approve of their love to the other family. This is like our normal lives because sometimes you and your parents have different ideas about who you should be in a relationship with, and it is truly up to you. Not what your parents want.
My experience with my parents were pretty close to mine because they raised me and know my values. It makes me think that Romeo and Juliet must have a hard time because even though their parents raised them, they don't have similar values for their children as they have.
I don't know what this has to do with Romeo and Juliet's situation. Something that might be essential to share, is how your answers compare to your parents.
I learned that my parents and I have some of the same requirements or traits of a person, but I also learned that we have some very different views on "mattes" as well. I personally think its a generation thing. Like how Romeo and Juliet's parents didnt approve of each other.
obviously romeo and juliet had different ideas than their parents about who their perfect mate would be. the handout had us describe what we would like in a significant other and what our parents would like in our significant other. a few qualities i listed were similar to my parents list but on occasion we did disagree just like romeo and juliet did with their parents.
I believe that the perfect mate is defined as someone who is compatible and that you are comfortable with. Romeo an Juliet are comfortable with each other but the feud with there parents requires them to be completely comfortable with each other.
When I completed the perfect mate assignment, I realized that my perfect mate reflects characteristics and traits in my mom and my sisters. Not all of them are the same but the characteristics i like in my mom and sisters i look for in other people and my perfect mate. This relates to Romeo and Juliet because after one night they were in love because of actions, personality, or characteristics.
My perfect mate assessment doesn't relate to romeo and juliet. The perfect mate assignment for my family were way different than my family. We should blog about how the results differed from your own.
I noticed that during this discussion with my parents I found that when comparing what I thought my parents expectations and mine to be completely different, and I thought that I would have a higher expectation on who is my "mate" but it turns out that my parent and I were pretty close. But i am very different from Juliet's case, because she has to go with a arranged marriage, where as for me, I am pretty similar with what my parents want. And that Juliet's dad said that Paris had to win Juliet to love him, and I guess thats pretty similar, I know that my mom and dad would not me to date, or get married to anyone without them winning my hear first so i suppose the two of us have that in common.
I think that my experience with the "perfect mate" an and my mom had very similar things that I would look for in a mate. We did have a few different things in mind. I think it relates to Romeo and Juliet's situation because both Romeo and Juliet's parents have very different ideas and characteristics that they would want the son or daughter to have in a mate. I think that it is very unfair to Romeo and Juliet because they don't get the chance to get to know each others families because they all hate each other.
i learned that how or who raises you developes your view on who or what you look for in a person. for people who grow up in difficult places then they are more likely to treat people different or look for different types of people.
In life parents don't always agree with their children about the "perfect mate." Many kids want different things then their parents. Some want different personalities others disagree about religion or even other matters. Many parents don't have a chose in these situations. If the do it often ends badly. In Romeo and Juliet, the kids both fall in love and their parents hate it. Juliet's parents arrange a marriage for her but none of the things Juliet likes is in this man. The choose her parents made to force her to marry someone she didn't love lead to the horrible ending, death.
A "perfect mate" is someone you are compatable with and possibly who you want to spend the rest of your life with. The handout suggests that parents and children having the same ideas on the "perfect mate" will help the child have a better relationship; where as the relationship could fail if the parents don't approve.This is exactly Romeo and Juliet's problem. Their situation states that their families are sworn enemies, therefore the parents do not approve. They have a doomed love; or they are, as Shakespeare would say, "star-struck lovers" (Prologue).
Parents and kids may not have the same standards as far as a "perfect mate" goes but some areas do overlap and I think that those would be the most important.
What is essential to share about the perfect mate survey is that even though you may have a preference on how your perfect mate, it might not turn out to be that. For example in Romeo and Juliet they want Juliet to marry their version of her perfect mate but she falls in love with Romeo, which is what they don't expect, or want. This makes me think about how you don't always get what you want because if you like somebody, then you have to look past the point that might not be perfect because nobody is perfect.
Well you get to see what your parents like in a guy and you can compare them together. I liked the handout because i got to see what my mom would like to see for a Perfect Mate. Something that i related was that the person i dated my mom didn't really like that person and so with Romeo and Juliet there parents didn't like the whole idea of them dating. I think they should get to choose whoever they want to be with and that its not there parents chose to choose who they get to be with. If there parents don't like the idea well they should try to deal with it.
this assignment relights to romeo and Juliet a lot because its true love and you can't change that.
A perfect mate...someone who is everything you want. My perfect mate would be someone who respects me and treats me right. It has to be a man that i can trust and makes me happy, smile, and laugh. Finding a perfect mate for you is one thing, but having them fit your parents expectations is the hard part. I know my parents had most of the same comments as me like same morals and values, and most importantly having the same beliefs as me and my family. Having your parents decide your partner would be such a hard thing top go through, like Juliet. Romeo and Juliet were forbidden lovers and their parents did not agree in their choice of perfect, but i am thankful for my parents and me having similar views.
I learned that my parents and I pretty much agree on what I'm looking for in a boy. They didn't do in detail him as much as I did but they did bring up some good characteristics that I didn't think of. Romeo and Juliet had the same kind of parents I do, they want whats best for me, and approve whomever I marry. This shows me that parents today are somewhat like the parents in Romeo and Juliet.
The experience that i had with this handout was probably similar to what happened to Romeo and Juliet's in their life. Between me and my parents there were a lot of things different. This brought me closer with the text because i would know haw they would feel and also be mad.
I learned that my parents and I pretty much agree on what I'm looking for in a boy. They didn't do in detail him as much as I did but they did bring up some good characteristics that I didn't think of. Romeo and Juliet had the same kind of parents I do, they want whats best for me, and approve whomever I marry. This shows me that parents today are somewhat like the parents in Romeo and Juliet.
I think that the idea of having a good relationship is essential to the "Perfect Mate" survey. I think that personality traits are something that every individual thinks differently. Just like Romeo and Juliet.
The way that my perfect mate survey relates to the Romeo and Juliet is because my parents would like to me to be with someone that they are OK with and so am I. It sounds weird I know but I understand I would not want my kid to date a kid that I was not OK with. This makes me think that unlike Romeo and Juliet Would never go behind my parents back and date someone that they are OK with. because that could turn out really bad when they find out about us.
My parents wanted basically all the same things that I wanted in a significant other. I feel sadness when I think that Romeo and Juliet love each other so much but are not allowed to be with each other because of an insignificant family dispute.
I think it an interesting experience. personally didn't exactly have major differences than my parents but they weren't exactly the same ether. I think it was easier for me because they were my personal views. I think this would be a similar feeling in the play between Romeo and Juliet. Though my parents had a few views like "comes from a good family" that are a little questionable, they have close to my same views. In Romeo and Juliet the two family's heads were fighting and wouldn't see reason. The Capulets (however you spell it) planed for an arranged marriage, but wanted the suitor to win Juliet heart. Romeo stole it and thats acceptable in our age, but an outrage in the early 1800s.
It was interesting to see how many of the same trates my parents had written down compared to what trates i wanted. They were almost identical. This shows that they know me well and have taught me things I need to look for in a perfect mate. Since we have such similar ideas of the perfect mate I doubt I would ever be in a situation like Romeo and Juliet were in. But if our family hated another family, hopefully they would see past the hatred and only care about my happiness and let me be able to choose who i want to be with.
My mom knows a lot about me and my values, so her answers were very similar to mine. I know that in romeo and Juliet's situation it must be hard to know who your perfect mate is, but not being able to have them.
I learned that my parents know alot about me. Everything that i wrote is exactly what they thought i would write. I think its because i grew up learning and being taught everything they told me. Just like how romeo and juleit where conditioned to hate each other from there parents.
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