Friday, April 22, 2011
Significant Other And Perfection? Really?
What is essential to share regarding your completion of the "Perfect Mate" handout? How does your experience relate to what you know about Romeo and Juliet's situation? What does this make you think? Reflect? Contemplate? Don't forget to include references to our class discussion. This blog response should be completed in class on 4-22-11.
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Well when me and my mom filled out the Perfect Mate form it was much different from what I expected. My mom wrote down almost the exact some characteristics that I wrote down. My experience do not match up to Romeo and Juliet's because my parents normally approve of the boys I like. This makes me think that instead of having to do stuff in secret it will be a better relationship because it is more accepted than Romeo and Juliet's.
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In Romeo and Juliet it shows how Juliet had a arrange marriage. What her parents thought was good for her was completely different from what Juliet actually preferred. I can relate because when I took the perfect mate quiz what I put was different then what I said. For example I said I like someone who is romantic and she said intelligence.
with romeo and juleit ive begun to realize that the bonds they have are simaler to the bond of familys.
The 'perfect mate' assignment was interesting. My parents had kind of 'stricter' expectation of a mate than I did. This relates by how the parents of Romeo and Juliet probably have a different set of expectation than they do including they don't marry the conflicting family. It's interesting how parents expectations may influence their children's actions or expectations for good or for bad.
I think that my parents have the same values as i do
During life of Romeo and Juliet, times were different. You didn't date who ever you wanted and your parents opinion was very important. Today our parents care about who we bring home, but they don't force us to be with someone we don't want to. My parents just want me to be happy and treated well, they don't care what he looks like or how smart he is. The characteristics my mother listed for me were smart, funny, creative, athletic, responsible, loving and more. I agreed with my moms opinions and it was almost exactly the same as what I put. My moms opinions count, and will always be thought of, but mine are more important for me. During Romeo and Juliet I feel like parents and children had very different views of who the perfect mate was. Depending on age and their family.
Doing the "Perfect Mate" survey showed how much my parents really do know me. My parents and I are close so, it made me feel good that they knew exactly what I want and need in a significant other. Like, how I like music and acting, so someone that is involved with both they knew I would like. I cant really relate to Romeo and Juliet's situation because my parents would trust the fact I would pick the right "mate". It makes me think how the trust back then was probably not very good with the parents and kids. It makes me sad a family couldn't have enough trust within itself to know, that the son or daughter would make the right choice. Even if they didn't like the other parents.
Me and my parents both said that trusting and commitment is a very good thing to have. Romeo and Juliet were very committed even though there family’s hate each other with a passion, and that when Romeo thinks Juliet is dead he kills himself because he didn’t want to be with anyone but her. This makes me think that a lot more people back then were very much so more committed and trustworthy towards each other then compared to today’s couples.
After answering the “Perfect Mate” handout I learned that my parents and I had the same ideas for what we thought each other would think of as for what I am looking for. In Romeo and Juliet, if there parents found that their children found what they were looking for in each other, they would not want the relationship to be because the families do not like each other. If I found someone, my parents would want me to be with them whether they hate them or not.
My parents want to find someone that they are happy with and can spend the rest of their lives with, i do too. I want a girl that has the same morals as i do. A nice pretty girl is always fun too!
Regarding the "Perfect Mate" handout, it's nice when guys behave themselves, meaning that they don't start talking about things that nobody wants to know about, and is athletic like me. My parents have identical opinions as me. I haven't really experienced a situation that's like Romeo and Juliet's, but meeting somebody definitely starts with attraction. But in this day and age, I don't really have an opinion because at the age of 15, I haven't fallen in love, because my relationships with guys aren't that close in that way yet.
My mother has known me for my whole life (obviously) and therefore knows what my interests are and what I like. I can not relate to Romeo and Juliet's situation because I have never dated/expressed feelings for a girl that my parents did not approve of. My mom thinks that my perfect mate would have patience and respect and a good personality, while I thought that my perfect mate would have a good sense of humor and good physical features. So, my mother had different views about this topic and focused more on how they act.
my mom and i filled out the the perfect mate and we both had the same things about the traits that the boys i like should have because she tends to like the same boys i do so it always works out.
My person has to be funny and smart, joyful, active and serious at times. She has to love Texas. My experience is nothing like Romeo and Juliet. i would not kill my self if my perfect person was dead. This makes me think that i am ordinary and not abnormal.
Doing this handout made me realize my parents have high expectations for a significant other. However I noticed I did too. Some of my parents answers and mine aligned with mine and I fond that interesting but I really should have seen that coming because I have always been influenced by them. I don't think that the answers in the handout I filled out relate very much to Romeo and Juliet because they are not allowed to be with each other and they fell in love in a moment. I think I would like to know someone really well before that happened to me.
Back when Romeo and Juliet was written parent approval was a much bigger importance. Your parents usually were the choosers of who you would marry or at least had a large part to it. My parents want me to have a good, honest, positive and respectable guy but if I don't they won't force me to change my decision. But when comparing results it looks like I agree. Our ideas of a, "good guy" are a lot of the same things! So my parent's and my opinions on the "perfect mate" are pretty similar.
What I know about Romeo and Juliet is that they did love eachother, but their families did not agree with eachother. Since they did not agree with eachother, they felt that Romeo and Juliet were not compatible. This Perfect Mate assignment relates to Romeo and Juliet, because my parents wrote down what they would like in my perfect mate, and I wrote down what I would like, so it is to see what we have in common with what we look for. It would make it easier to have a perfect mate if your parents agreed, and that isn't the situation in Romeo and Juliet.
When me and my parents filled out the perfect mate thing my ideas about my perfect mate are a lot different then the things that i want about my perfect mate and what my dad wrote so it was kinda funny how we had different things usually i never tell my parents about the girls i like so i don't know if they would like them or hate them so i don't know what they would think
When my mom filled out the perfect mate paper it was really different from what I wrote. We had some of the same thing written down. Like they have to be outgoing and are nice. My mom and I are very different people so i could see how the kinds of guys that we are looking for are very different.
In seeing how we view each other's mate, we can either show we can see through other's eyes, or interpret what the other person portrays. Mate's are a different subject, opposites attract each other and that only happens sometimes. My mother and completed the Perfect Mate worksheet. we found out that we had similar ideas. We thought of personality and characteristics. Mostly ones such as honestly, humor, and intelligence. She saw through my eyes and guessed what she thought would please me. Now she has a simple view for my future. All she wants for me is too be happy and have someone who loves and respects me. In the scheme of things thats what everyone wants. No one wants to be bitter and sad.
My "Perfect Mate" is a funny, kind, caring tall, athletic and overall great person. My Moms perfect "mate is" a nice, caring man who would make a good father. In some ways our "Perfect Mates" are the same, except I like women and she likes men. Romeo loves Juliet and dies for her proving it.
Well when we filled out our Perfect Mate forms with our parents, we discussed our lists and had common traits on our list. Overall we have the same expectations for a future mate, unlike Lord Capulet had for Juliet. Although he said Prince Escalus had to capture her heart in order to marry her, the marriage was still arranged and the parents didn't really look at his morals but instead his stature before he married his daughter. Unlike the situation in Romeo & Juliet, when we talk about our expectations for our perfect mate with our parents, there is less of a chance that we will be with someone that they don't approve of.
I think it is good to share with our parents. I will probably have different standards for a perfect mate in a few years as I refine myself and become a better person. My parents want a totally different person to be with me, but this could change as time passes.
I think it is good to share with our parents. I will probably have different standards for a perfect mate in a few years as I refine myself and become a better person. My parents want a totally different person to be with me, but this could change as time passes.
Jon Beckman
My expectations were very similar to my parents and it surprised me. I thought that my parents would have completely different opinions. My parents never seemed to be similar to me. Some of my expectations were friendly, kind and good humored and my parents were almost exactly the same.
My experience is not related to Romeo and Juliet. My parents and I have different opinions on my future mate. I hold the same values that my parents hold, but I want a person with lots and lots of qualities like being athletic, adventurous, intelligent and supportive while my parents did not have as wide as a variety. In Romeo and Juliet, the parents are a whole lot more controlling and have their kids marry people that the parents would want to marry it seems like. So even though my parents search for different qualities, I still have my freedom to choose who I want, which is pretty cool.
Its essential to list your personality and your interests so you may find the perfect mate. My experience relates to Romeo and Juliet because all the people you meet and talk with, you only really start to like the person you share more qualities with and you like them when you can get along with that certain person well. It makes me think that even when Romeo and Juliet live in separate worlds they're still in love with each other because they have more in common with each other and they get along well. From what my parents have said and what i have said they have some of the same qualities and some different.
I think that it's important to share that my parents and I look for the same thing in my "perfect mate." We both agree on a respectful, hard-working and can make me laugh. Currently my dad and I agree very much but that will probably change as I get older and my interests change. My experience is similar to Romeo and Juliet because my dad wants me to be happy with the guy I choose just like Juliet's dad.
In Romeo and Juliet the families hated each other and believed that the two where not meant for each other and that Juliets family knew best. I think that our family usually know best and will understand the consequences of our actions better than we do. But after filling out the perfect match sheet I found that my mom and I feel the same way in most things when it comes to a relationship no matter how insignificant it might be. We both believe that the person you are in a relationship with should be mature and understand that a relationship really is no joke but instead something that should be taken seriously even though most people don't even do that. My mom and I also believe that the relationship should be built around trust and being able to be honest with one another.
My father and I had almost the same things we wanted. He knows that I do multiple activities and wants someone to enjoy them with me. I really wanted someone who was athletic and preferable did the same sports as me. I love swimming and my father put that he wanted me to be with a swimmer because he knows that we could do it together. He and I wanted someone who was well grounded because being crazy, spontaneous, and not going with the flow is something I do. He does need to let go of himself once and a while and have fun. I like to laugh and read so me and my father both put someone who isn't to dependent on his work and has time for her. Preferably someone who is very sociable and funny. Overall, I feel like me and my father want the same thing.
After I finished the Perfect Mate survey and I compared it with my parents, their ideas of a significant other was completely different, like they had some similarities but what my parents wanted was not at all what i had in mind. I think that maybe in five years or so my ideas or theirs will change, or maybe ill meet someone who is completely different than what i have in mind. Even though our ideas are different, my parents approve of most of the guys that i like. We both agree on trust and commitment, that those are the base of any relationship and without them it wont be as successful, and Romeo and Juliet stayed together even though their parents hated each other, which proves their commitment to each other.
Me and my dad filled out the perfect mate form and it was actually pretty close from what i thought of women. I like a girl who's funny, likes to hang out, listen to music, athletic, cute all these kinda things and my dad had most of the same things. My parents have pretty much approved with my girlfriends as to where thats the opposite with romeo and juliet.
When I took the Perfect Mate survey, i realized that your parents may not always approve of your ideal significant other but they tend to know what characteristics you look for. Being your parents and all honestly. Romeo and Juliet were in love and their parents would not have approved of their relationship. Like the Capulets, this was most likely because they wanted someone for their daughter that was different then what she wanted. Good parents should understand their son or daughter and what they look for in their "perfect mate."
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