What is essential to share regarding your completion of the "Perfect Mate" handout? How does your experience relate to what you know about Romeo and Juliet's situation? What does this make you think? Reflect? Contemplate? Don't forget to include references to our class discussion. This blog response should be completed in class on 4-13-12.
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It seemed that my dad know me better then I thought he did. This assignment for some people was a eye opener because there standers were to high. Which was like Romeo and Juliet they could have had to high expectations of eachother and what was going to happen.
I was surprised to see my parents responses of the perfect mate. I am closer with my mom so i thought that our responses would be similar. I was shocked when the responses were so different. I think that the same situation could have been for Juliet and her mother. She thought that Paris was the best for her, but Juliet thought differently.
Even though I didn't complete the project, I could assume that my mother would score far, far closer than my dad. My dad was a hippie in his days, and even though my dad strove for that look to impress the ladies, and it did, I can assume that that was back in like the 70s. My dad is still stuck in that time a little bit.
I have no experience with Romeo and Juliet whatsoever, so I have much to learn at this point.
Regarding the "Perfect Mate" handout my mom and I were very similar in our answers I have never dated someone that my parents disapprove of because my parents and I are very close. So my experience does not relate to Romeo and Juilet at all and I have no ides what they are going through. I am very against arraigned marriage and my parents know that so I believe that I would never be put in Romeo and Juilet's situation.
In my ideal relationship, I would like for the guy to be trustworthy, honest, smart, athletic, romantic, respectful, funny, smart, kind, caring, a good listener, supportive, faithful thoughtful, blue eyes, strong and tall, When I was asked to complete the perfect mate survey with a parent, i automatically went to my mom. My mom and I are a lot closer when it comes to feelings and relationships, so I thought she would know me better than my dad did in this aspect. It turns out that our surveys were almost exactly identical. There were only one or two things on her list that wasn't on mine. It would be a fine situation if your parents had the same taste as you when it came to relationships, but since Romeo and Juliet's parents wanted different things for their children, I would wish my parents wouldn't be involved. I'm glad arranged marriage isn't what is common today.
This handout kind of makes me think maybe we think we know everything we want in someone but when love really does come around it won't matter if they don't fit or live up to all of our expectations. In Romeo and Juliet her parents don't approve of her choice and not only does Romeo not fit her parents standards but him and his family are Juliet's family enemy.
This project helped me connect to the prejudice that went on between Romeo and Juliet's parents toward their child's relationship. Parents all want something from their child's relationship that may or may not be different. It also helps me understand how my parents view me, who they think I would like or not like.
I think this relates to Romeo and Juliet because when you find someone that has all the qualities that you are looking for in a mate you know right away if they are the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and it doesn't matter how long you have known them. A lot of people in our class wanted someone they could have fun with and that was attractive and that could make them laugh. I wanted a lot of the same traits everyone else said someone tall, that i could have a good time with, someone i could trust, someone thats respecting and kind and that could make me laugh all the time and someone that was really cute. My parents for the most part wrote down the same thing i did for the perfect mate.
In my experience doing the perfect mate survey, my answers were very close to my mom's. It was kind of shocking to see how alike we think in what our perfect mate would be. I think due to the fact that I live with her and I'm so close to her and I grew up with her, I just grew up learning what she would look for in a relationship. Also, since I have an older brother who has been in a long and serious relationship with his girlfriend, I kind of grew up thinking of traits similar to her. In Romeo and Juliet, it seems as if their parents have no idea what their ideal mate would be. Because since Juliet is forced to get married to a guy who she doesn't love, she is unhappy and her parents never saw it. I think that when it comes to parents and their kids love life, they shouldn't be involved very much because it's their children's life and neither the parents or the kids will have 100% of the same expectations.
My parents want the best for me but take it to a different level, where they don't like me dating someone if they don't fit there expectations. It relate's to Romeo and Juliet because there family's want them to marry people that they believe fit there criteria and my mom is kinda of the same way.
My expectations for my mom was that she would come pretty close to what I would expect, which was true. I expected my dad to be awkward about this whole situation because dads are usually protective over their daughters. Juliet probably went through the same thing, which is probably why her parents chose a husband for her. Many people said that their parents were pretty close to what they thought because of their relationships with the person.
My perfect mate would have to be at least 5 foot, brown hair, a sense of humor, not very material, not high maintenance, and a down to earth person.
Doing this activity I have come to realize how similar my parents and my own opinions are really quite similar. This activity, I could tell, was used to connect and relate our different answers. This can relate to Romeo and Juliette because Juliette's parents had very different views from her own. Juliette had to choose between her own beliefs and her parents. In our discussion we talked about how different/similar our standards were compared to each others and out parents. This discussion made me realize that your perfect mate is most likely viewed off of or related to how your parents have acted/looked as well because kids look up to them.
After completing the perfect mate survey I realized my love life is nothing like Romeo and Juliet. My parents completely respect who I like and what I look for in a guy. I have high respect for my self and my parents know that so they know I have high expectations for my boyfriends. Romeo and Juliets situation would be very difficult. If my parents didn't approve of the person i was dating it would be really uncomfortable. Also since Juliets parents look for something completely different she would never be able to marry someone that lives up to her standards. It would be impossible to stay way from the person your in love with so i support what Romeo and Juilets feeling for each other.
From our in class discussion, I found that most people's parents expectaions for their child's perfect mate was similar or exact to what their shild says. I think that my mom/dad would have a similar idea in the person for me but not so exact. Unfortuantely, for Romeo and Juliette if they were to do this activity, their parents would decribe the perfect person for them but object to anyone from their rival family eliminating eachother from their parent's lists.
i havent showed this to my parents.. but i will edit this when i do...
I think that what you think your "Perfect Mate" should be like is your decision. Your parents should give you guidance, but in the end support you in whatever decision you make. If you fall in love with someone, like in Romeo and Juliet, your parents should not forbid you or discourage you from seeing that person. If they do, it can break your relationship with your parents or do even worse damage, like in Romeo and Juliet
I was surprised because my mom did not really take it too seriously, but it was interesting never the less. My moms ideals did not match up with mine at all. This was also surprising, but made me think of how Juliette felt when her father had other ideas for her.
i don't know what my parents would say. but i would assume that i would be closer to my dad.i would like a nice some what tall girl with blonde hair, athletic, funny, humerous clean.
My parents and I had very similar answers which wasn't really a surprise. My parents have told me what they expect from me and the guys I date. My parents expectations are actually pretty simple and trust my judgement. My parents are pretty young so I think they can relate better to me. We have a great relationship and I really appreciate that.
I can relate to Romeo and Juliet in a lot of ways. I have never told my parents about my interaction with the opposite sex. Why? Well, for multiple reasons one being the fact that I honestly don't want to. I find it awkward and strange. Another being they don't approve of me dating. So i haven't ever brought a boy home to them. I don't necessarily date boys behind their backs. Its usually where I like a person and they like me back. But my parents still wouldn't allow me. Even though I have no control over who i like, it happens naturally.Just like Juliet, her parents would not approve at all, even though its something that happens naturally. Now I have talked to my parents about what I like to find in a boy. But my father told me to lower my expectation. Which is fine i agree with him. You have to stop with the silly ideas of the "perfect Mate" because if you do you're missing out on a ton of lovely people. You most likely will never find someone who's perfect because no one is. You label soup, not people.
I don't really know the situation romeo and juliet are in because my parents have never tried to stop me from dating someone. But I think that I would be really unhappy and run away if I was put in this situation. Then if that person that I loved killed themselves and I thought that I had nothing left to live for i might kill myself too.
I think that my parents would have the same expectations but not have the same expectations i do because they want me to get someone who can speak the language they speak and there's not many that go to this school. So if I don’t have the same expectations they do they probably don’t want be seeing them like in romeo and juliet where the parents do not want them seeing each other. But I think that my parent would just like someone who makes me happy.
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